Did you know Prayerlessness is Selfishness

Last Sunday was father’s day; I am confident am a good father in the making. ‘What kind of a father will I make?’ is a question I usually find myself thinking about regularly. What defines a good father? Is it material possessions or wealth? What exactly?!

I am thinking…A good father is a praying father. Too sad that I have grown up in a society where prayers is left for women. Someone advised me that one of the qualities of a good wife is a praying wife. I do not dispute this, but I think on the other hand, a praying father is a good quality too ladies should look on men who are the head of the family just like Christ is the head of the church.

PraaaayersWe all need to pray. Both men and women need to exercise their faith through prayers- the chief exercise of faith. The way we tell God we only rely on him. The only way we exhibit our inability and call upon God’s help. Prayers show our total dependence on God.

Prayerlessness is selfishness. A father who does not pray for his family is selfish father. A good father should always commit his wife and children to God. He should train them to trust and rely in God, even in the little things of life. He should always pray for to God for their forgiveness, sanctification, for their salvation, for their needs…etc.

A prayer less wife/mother is a selfish wife/mother. A wife who does not pray for her children is a selfish mother in that she does not teach them to trust in the Lord. She should always commit her family to God, always praying for skills to bring her children in godly manner. She should pray for husband and the children to always exalt Christ in everything they do.

Prayerlessness is selfishness for the church member who does not pray for the Lord’s grace to be extended to his friends, for those who are battling a specific sin and seeing both encouraging victories and heartbreaking failure. A selfish church member is the one who does not pray for his or her Pastor, to always preach the gospel and to always show and exalt Christ in all the sermons.

Prayerlessness is selfishness for the Christian who does not pray for his neighbors, that the Lord would save them and that the Lord would even use him as the one to share with them the good news of the gospel. A selfish Christian does not pray for missionaries too.

May God help us to get out of our selfishness because of our prayerlessness!

What else do you think exhibit prayerlessness as selfishness?


Open Up About Your Sin Pattern to Overcome It

The devil has known it. He has beaten us so well in this. He always tells us, “Keep it a secret. Do not share. What will people think of you? Lowly, of course! Please do keep it to yourself.”

3_29_CC_HOME__PatternsOfSinThe enemy wants us to stay in darkness. He does not want us to see light. He delights when we hide behind the door and continue living in our sins. He urges us to conceal our recurring sinful patterns assuring us that we will overcome them on our own. Satan discourages us from confessing our sin patterns with fellow believers.

“Other believers may not understand it. They don’t go through it themselves. We are the only one undergoing through these struggles,” the devil deceives us. He also convinces us that our sin is not too bad. We end up weakening the gravity of our sin, giving ourselves permission to continue in it.

It just “feels” more secure to hide than to come out in the open about our struggles with sin. We thus stay in the darkness, and here’s what we miss: the grace and love of God who is faithful to forgive our sins if we confess them to Him (1 John 1:9).

thJA0A1BM7A friend Pastor told me, “If you want to know where the devil is working in your life, share what your secrets are!” He got it right. My secrets, the ones I have successfully locked in the heart and lost the key as a friend joked, are the sinful patterns I always struggle with.

Here is Pastor and Blogger Chuck Lawless advice on fighting recurrent sin pattern;

Be honest with somebody about your struggles. I know that’s a risky step, but we don’t overcome sin patterns when we fight the battles alone. God has designed the church in such a way that we can lean on each other for help. Ask God to direct you to someone with whom you can confess your struggle (James 5:16). Then, trust that godly love, restoration, and forgiveness will trump the power of sin (Gal. 6:1).

Confession is never easy. It’s embarrassing and painful at times. Sometimes it just seems easier to stay in the darkness than it is to confess our wrong to somebody else. It is a lie that we are more secure if we hide our struggles with sin than if we come out. We accept this lie as truth and fall even more into recurrent sin patterns that cannot satisfy.

Let’s purpose to develop enough, strong and deep relationships with folks we trust, whom we can freely talk with about our sinful patterns- the first step of overcoming our sin patterns.


By Kenneth Irungu
iServe Africa Apprentice
Serving at DOVE Christian Fellowship, Kawangware